We are increasingly fearful of public speaking because it means risking our group membership in front of our fellow recruiters and wider business community.
The desire to be part of a group at work is extremely powerful because it contributes to a large part of our social identity and to our sense of who we are. Intelligence/gossip are the lifeblood of many groups and can travel at a fast pace in organisations affecting our reputation.
With so much uncertainty in this current age, group membership is increasingly vital. Effectively we want to stand out less and merge into a group more. This affects our ability and desire for public speaking.
Not only are we more afraid of public speaking and outing ourselves on a platform in front of our recruitment industry peers, but we are increasingly less likely to give our opinions to our colleagues because of increasing levels of stress and a lower tolerance of different opinions.
We are fearful of telling people what we think because of the repercussions we believe this has on our group membership, magnified further by the power of online communities and social media. It has become so easy to shame people anonymously.
Fear can do things such as cause us to speed up when speaking in public, a sort of “I’m going to get this over as soon as possible” attitude, while possibly throwing away an opportunity we could have used to shine. Not addressing this fear is a sure way to undermine your own success. Being able to ‘own the room’ will grant you numerous advantages in your professional life as it will help you connect better with people and will enable you to shine.
TIPS ON HOW TO OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING
1. Look at the audience as your friends. In actual fact they want you to do a good job. Focus on the friendly faces who are smiling and nodding. They will help give you confidence.
2. Identify any nerve-wracking memories associated with public speaking and evaluate whether it really mattered in the grand scheme of things.
3. The fear you are feeling is just like a bully. You might think it has the power over you but when you confront your fear head on, it should fade away.
4. There is no greater rush than doing something positive and releasing those endorphins after doing something you might have been afraid of – whether that be a presentation to your colleagues or climbing Mount Kilimanjaro. Have you ever heard someone say they regret doing a skydive?
5. As Winston Churchill said: “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” It’s true, our mistakes help us grow as people and give us the knowledge to make us stronger.
6. It is important to surround yourself with people who want you to succeed. This positivity that will surround you will give you a more determined outlook and will help you persevere, despite your fears.
7. Use visualisation. Try and imagine yourself conquering the fear that you are so afraid of. Then imagine the worst that could happen, and then think of yourself overcoming the hurdle with ease. Even if the worst case scenario does happen, it’s not the end of the world.
8. Always prepare, especially if you are making a speech or presentation. There is an old cliché that says ‘if you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail’, and it’s true. The more prepared you are the more likely you are to do well. And remember: the audience doesn’t know what you are going to say, so if you forget something just keep going as long as it still makes sense!
By Dr Lynda Shaw
Dr Lynda Shaw is a cognitive psychologist and business neuroscientist